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Why Escorts Say No to New Clients

Escorts often turn down new clients. I know I did. Aside from those who didn’t pass screening, any other refusals were always for one of the reasons below:

  1. My gut instinct said no.
  2. The client did not appreciate the value of what I offered.
  3. The client expected me to invest time and resources into pursuing their business without any financial commitment on their end.
  4. The client did not treat me in a courteous or professional manner.
  5. The client asked for services I didn’t provide.
  6. The client’s requests were too large for my one-person business.
  7. The client did not share the same values as I.

I didn’t actually articulate this list myself. All of the reasons for client-refusals are true but the words aren’t mine. They’re from the article “Seven Reasons to Say No to New Business” by Debbie Bermont. If you read the article, you’ll notice it doesn’t say anything about escorts.

This should be no surprise to anyone, but personal service businesses are similar no matter what the service is. Web designers often make the same complaints about their clients that I’ve heard escorts make about theirs. The art of client relations is the same.

Escort work is a business. Escorts face many of the same business issues that small, personal service business owners face, whether online or during client meetings. Recognize that you are running a small business. It helps you be a professional and empowers you to make decisions that are right for you and your business.

Recognizing the business reason for why you refused a new client gives you a solid argument if the client decides to debate your refusal. You could even refer clients to the “Seven Reasons” article. They might learn a lesson in how to approach business-people in order to get a “yes” instead of a “no.”

And maybe you’ll learn that it’s okay to turn down new clients, especially for one of the very valid reasons stated above. You already know that accepting an appointment with a client like this means the appointment won’t go well and both of you won’t get along with each other. Saving yourself (and potential clients) headaches or real trouble makes your business and personal life that much easier. You won’t make money from rejected appointment requests, but is it worth getting a bad review, not getting along with a client, getting ripped off or assaulted? Maybe your peace of mind is worth the money you would’ve made from a bad appointment.

Turning down clients because they don’t suit you is a gift to yourself. It also means that you raise the percentage of successful appointments you have, leaving you feeling better about your work. Being a happy escort means you can more easily make your clients happy. Happy clients come back, increasing your percentage of repeat clients. Having a high repeat rate means your business is happy and healthy. That makes you even happier, right? This creates a self-perpetuating cycle of success.

Allowing unsuitable clients to book appointments with you interrupts your happiness and possibly your money. Let them go their way. They may find their own perfect match elsewhere or they may not. It doesn’t matter to you because you have to protect your mental and emotional health first. Making sure your appointments are suitable for you is a big step in that direction.

Further reading: “What Makes a Good Client

Originally published mid-2007, but due to technical issues is dated several months later.