The Internet Escort’s Handbook

Safe, Sane, Successful Escort Work is Possible!

New Online Interview!

Writer Jen Burke has posted part 1 of a two-part interview with me on TheNervousBreakdown.com. She’s interested in the intersection of sex, law, politics and culture. The most important topic we discussed is the mainstreaming of sex work. Now that I think of it, I should’ve brought up the sheer resistance the UK has had to the TV version of Belle de Jour’s book. Oh well. She asked a few more questions that I’ve really wanted to answer, especially in part II. I’ll post here when it’s up. And check out her book on Amazon — A Life Less Convenient: Letters To My Ex. Not only is she a good writer, but she really has an incredible story to...

Book 1: The Foundation Wins an Award

Woo-hoo! It’s a small honor, to be sure, but The Internet Escort’s Handbook Book 1: The Foundation garnered an Honorable Mention in the Nonfiction category of the Writer’s Digest 15th Annual International Self-Published Book Awards. The winners will be published in the March/April issue of Writer’s Digest. It’s very exciting because I certainly did not expect to win an award, although I fantasized about a first place in Nonfiction. Kudos to the judges for looking past whatever knee-jerk reactions they had to the actual content of the book (they also judged on presentation). I would love to enter Book 2: Advertising and Marketing in the upcoming year’s contest but I don’t know if I’ll have a retail-ready printed copy ready by the May 1 deadline. If not, well, there’s always the following year. It would just be cool to be in the contest two years in a row. Although if I have to wait to enter Book #2, it will probably be in tandem with Book #3. I really am pushing to get Book #3 out in 2008 too. Just thining long-term. It’s a very good feeling to get a little something like...

Introducing “Fuck Lit”

In the ongoing controversy over the UK TV show based on Belle de Jour’s book, plenty of words have been used (I plan on discussing several of the articles very soon). But this one in The Guardian got my attention. It seems that The Internet Escort’s Handbook just another entry in the sad, sad world of sex workers writing about their experiences. Although I don’t consider the book to be literature in the strictest sense, that I’m a former sex worker writing about sex work apparently tags my efforts as “fuck lit” and not worthy of serious consideration. (Had Bunting actually read my book, she might’ve had more derogatory things to say.) I’m certainly honored and excited to make it into The Guardian with so little effort on my part. I need the publicity help. But the argument… Bunting believes the “happy hooker” is just a myth (mostly fueled by fuck lit). She has a problem realizing that prostitution, just like any industry, has a range of experiences. Much as I want to help stop a lot of the problems inherent in the business, it’s not going to completely happen. There will always be women who get taken advantage of and hurt (as with dating and marriage). The best any of us can do is work on harm reduction and helping those who are harmed. Likewise, there will always be women who never have those experiences and are never touched by negativity in their job. One extreme does not mean the other doesn’t exist, nor does it mean one set of experiences make the girl better or worse than...

Book #2 Progress: Completed!

The rough draft is finished! There’s a lot to do: compiling the Resources, interviewing escorts, making sure I’ve included everything I intended — but it’s done! Due to my poor planning, editing is delayed until January. That gives me plenty of time to promote it and Book #1, as well as do things like blog more and work on getting an affiliate program started. Expect to see new Squidoo lenses from me soon, as well as an exceprt from Book #2 and the Table of Contents. Work on Book #3 starts in a couple...

Interview by Gwen Masters

Well-known erotica writer Gwen Masters interviewed me in tandem with her book review of Book 1: The Foundation. She asked interesting questions that required thoughtful replies, not the glib responses I’ve given before (because these weren’t the usual questions). Read the full interview (and book review) on her blog. Make comments! Link to it! I’m thrilled with the results. And if you’re want some steamy reading, take a look at Gwen’s...

New Review!

Gwen Masters, an editor at Clean Sheets, has a glowing review for Book 1: The Foundation. Read the full review on her blog and leave comments...

Presentations at Desiree Alliance 2007 Conference

I will be attending and presenting at the 2007 Desiree Alliance Conference in San Francisco next week. (Here’s the schedule with link to the speaker list.) I’m nervous and excited. This is a first for me. Some parts of the conference are open to the general public, some are not. So if you’re curious and in the area, you might contact them about attending, even if you’re not involved in any part of the adult industry. I will be presenting on privacy for escorts, issues of retirement and a general look at the Internet. Continue reading this post for briefs. The escort privacy speech is not open to the general public; the other two are. The Conference is part of a week-long Sex Worker Fest. I’ll attend various events from July 17-21, so if you’d like to meet me – you can. And, if case you haven’t seen, I’m offering a book discount next week. Details… Fundamental Safety for Sex Workers Through Personal Privacy – Legal and Relatively Simple Ways of Being “Hidden” from Clients and Stalkers A straightforward how-to piece using legal techniques of misdirection and misinformation gleaned through my own experience and research. The concepts of having an alternate name and an alternate mailing address are simple ideas. The trick is in learning how to achieve them. An untraceable cell phone, credit card and even business bank account is essential for sex workers with more complex business needs. None of these methods will hide you from the IRS or the government, but they are enough to keep predators at arms length, which is something most sex workers...

Reviewed in $pread Magazine

Finally! I’m excited about my most recent review in $pread Magazine. The review was positive and it’s really a stamp of approval. Plus, it’s rather nice to have a review that was printed in a magazine. Not knocking my online reviews. I think everyone will agree that having a printed page to show off is a nice feeling. You can read the full review on the book’s Review...