The Internet Escort’s Handbook

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Literary Sex Ed for Escorts

I’m always talking about feeding your mind. I realized there is a gap in education when I read an older escort’s blog post where she discussed reading, for the first time, a book I assumed every woman to have read as early in life as possible. In the interest of a rounded education, here’s a list of erotic books escorts would do well to read. Some of these books have been turned into movies. Forget that. Read the book. Just as it is difficult to bring horror to film (ask Stephen King), it’s even more difficult to capture real sexual heat on film. Many of these books have creative writing styles and ways of expression. So you can look on this exercise as a short literary course — if you need the excuse. Don’t expect all of these books to be to your sexual tastes. That’s the point. This is an educational exercise, not a sex lesson. These are books I’ve enjoyed for various reasons and feel have value for escort work. If there’s a book you love not on this list, contact me and make me want to read it! I’m always open to new literary experiences. It’ll go here. I recommend first readings to be done privately so your response is genuine and uninhibited; although reading hot books in public could be a thrill to a certain type of girl. In no particular order: The Story of O Delta of Venus (and any other Anais Nin stories) The New Olympia Reader 9 ½ Weeks Kushiel’s Dart and Kushiel’s Avatar The Unmade Bed The Catalyst and Other Works...

GoDaddy.com and Domains

GoDaddy.com is in trouble again. It did not properly protect the owner of a domain and the domain was swiped. There are a lot more tangents to this story and you can read them at the links I’ve posted for you at the end of this article. The focus here is how it could affect escorts and their Web sites. According to what I’ve read, it seems that the person who wanted the domain attempted to contact the owner through the e-mail address listed on their WhoIs information (i.e., their domain registration). When that e-mail bounced they backordered the domain, then alerted GoDaddy to the problem. (GoDaddy was the domain registrar on record.) GoDaddy attempted to contact the owner of the domain by e-mail. In a nutshell – GoDaddy’s e-mail went unanswered so they took back the domain and allowed the other party to purchase it. Although you’re supposed to register a working telephone number, valid e-mail address and a mailing address when you purchase a domain, GoDaddy used only one method to try and contact the domain owner: their e-mail (even though that e-mail was no longer working). Lesson 1 Always use a valid e-mail address. One that you check at least once a week. If you change e-mail addresses, make sure to change the information on your domain and Web hosting service(s). Lesson 2 The people who build spam sites or who might have a personal grudge against you could use this method of domain inquiry and backordering to cause problems for you. While GoDaddy’s response to the situation seems to have been out of line for...

What Makes a Good Client?

Throughout my Escort’s Handbook series, I use the term “good client.” What does that mean? My answer is based on my ideas and experiences; I don’t know precisely what makes a good client for another escort. But based on a lot of other girls say on discussion board posts and their blogs, most of what I think makes a good client is pretty universal. Almost everything that makes a client ‘good’ is motivated by respect for the escort. A good client… …recognizes the escort as an individual. First and foremost, a good client is a man who recognizes that his paid companion is an individual woman and he respects her as a person. This usually requires some maturity in the client (which is why a lot of escorts don’t want to see men under 30), along with having had some solid relationships with women (also part of the reason for the 30-and-over rule). Often, men who haven’t had much experience with escorts don’t understand this concept. They see escorts as a commodity or service and not as a personal relationship. With enough experiences, or meeting the right escort, they usually realize their mistake in perception and change their ideas about the person they pay for companionship. Some men refuse to see any escort as more than a living sex doll. These men are almost universally loathed by escorts. Good clients realize that they’re arranging to meet a person and start a relationship, much like dating. They view the search for an escort as informed blind-dating, not shopping for tires. …pays correctly and is clean. A good client shows his...

Impressing a Client With Conversation

Although I touch on the value of good conversation in Book 1: The Foundation, I don’t go into a lot of detail on building your conversational skills. There are no “tricks” to good conversation: listen and when you say something – have something to say. Having something to say might be a problem for some girls. Successfully conversing with someone several years older than yourself and with much more life experience requires that you feed your mind. If you feed your mind a diet of tabloid magazines and TV reality shows, you’re not going to offer much that will interest or entertain your client. What should you feed your mind? Glad you asked. Current Events You need to keep up with current events. Your clients will be wealthy enough that politics interest them because they are affected by policy. Your clients will often contribute to a political party (I mostly ran into Republicans). There is no need to change your own views, but knowing what’s going on in the world and being able to comment intelligently will go a long way toward impressing your client. Don’t parrot other pundits. Read and absorb the news, then formulate your own opinion. Your views will always be unique to your client because you’re young, female and an escort. That’s very different from the people he normally discusses the news with. You don’t need to turn into a political blowhard, just having an informed opinion is good enough. Whether you read the news daily or weekly depends on many factors, but you should read the news on a regular basis. Because you’re also...

Why Escorts Say No to New Clients

Escorts often turn down new clients. I know I did. Aside from those who didn’t pass screening, any other refusals were always for one of the reasons below: My gut instinct said no. The client did not appreciate the value of what I offered. The client expected me to invest time and resources into pursuing their business without any financial commitment on their end. The client did not treat me in a courteous or professional manner. The client asked for services I didn’t provide. The client’s requests were too large for my one-person business. The client did not share the same values as I. I didn’t actually articulate this list myself. All of the reasons for client-refusals are true but the words aren’t mine. They’re from the article “Seven Reasons to Say No to New Business” by Debbie Bermont. If you read the article, you’ll notice it doesn’t say anything about escorts. This should be no surprise to anyone, but personal service businesses are similar no matter what the service is. Web designers often make the same complaints about their clients that I’ve heard escorts make about theirs. The art of client relations is the same. Escort work is a business. Escorts face many of the same business issues that small, personal service business owners face, whether online or during client meetings. Recognize that you are running a small business. It helps you be a professional and empowers you to make decisions that are right for you and your business. Recognizing the business reason for why you refused a new client gives you a solid argument if the client...

Is Your Web Host Ripping You Off?

In researching escort-specific Web designers for Book 2, I’ve looked at many design sites. Some of them offer solid design services at fair prices (compared to mainstream Web design). Many don’t – but that’s no different from any other industry. For instance, authors are as bamboozled by unethical designers as escorts are. The difference seems to be in the amount of price-gouging. But I’m willing to accept that. Every industry has a contingent willing to fleece the unwary or ignorant. I feel educating escorts about Web design will allow them to make better choices and hopefully unethical designers will lose business and eventually go away. Almost every design firm on the planet offers Web hosting (sometimes they’re a re-seller, other times they have their own servers). Those that don’t will often recommend particular hosts. Those who offer Web hosting, especially to escorts, have high prices. It’s not unusual to see charges of $25-$50/month for basic hosting. As I said before, I’m willing to accept some price-gouging in the market because I see it everywhere, not just with escort-specific Web design. It’s a fact of Web-life. If I were to spend $50/month on hosting, it would be because I had an extensive e-commerce site that required a lot of sophisticated programming languages, SSL, tons of bandwidth and huge amounts of disk space; and probably my own sever. None of my sites currently require that amount of work. The Sport of Ripping Off Escorts This weekend I looked at a design site that offered Web hosting services as well. My jaw dropped. I could not believe their gall. Their top-end Web...