The Internet Escort’s Handbook

Safe, Sane, Successful Escort Work is Possible!

Choosing a Domain Name — Extra Tip

In the section in Book 2 on purchasing domain names, I come up with some creative reasons for not buying your working name for your escort Web site. Another reason I should’ve mentioned: someone else might not like it. If you pick the name (or create a similar name) of a celebrity or fictional character, you could get a cease-and-desist letter from their estate or attorney. You run the risk of a defamation or copyright/trademark violation lawsuit as well. Or you could inadvertently choose the name of a real person, who discovers that an escort is using their name online. If they’re the wrong kind of person, they may well sue you for defamation. While I haven’t seen this happen yet, an escort I know shares the name of an author (who has made remarks on her blog). Though the escort has been using her working name for a few years, the author was born with that name and could make things ugly if she really wanted. This is simply something to be aware of when choosing a domain name. Some escorts get around this by purchasing domains like DateAmanda.com or AmandaofDallas.com instead of buying AmandaBrooks.com. Still not very creative, in my opinion, but less likely to make someone else...

When You DON’T Need a Site Disclaimer

Though I’ve discussed Web site disclaimers both here and in Book 2, the truth is your site may not require a disclaimer. If the site is simple and doesn’t allude to sexual activity (paid or unpaid), and your photos are unrevealing; an age limit and/or 2257 statement could be completely unnecessary. You might still want a Disclaimer page to make a copyright statement or to provide visitors the chance to leave if they’ve truly found your site by accident. But if you don’t have this extra page at the front of your site you should not be breaking any current stated Internet laws (I’m not a lawyer and this is not substitute for legal counsel). I have a Disclaimer on this site (though not the blog since it’s within the site’s structure) because I feel it’s proper. Though I doubt anyone has reached this site looking for information on anything other than safer sex or Internet escorts, I want to cover my bases. The topic is volatile enough. But a well-made escort site with nothing more than PG-rated content may not have to worry about making a disclaimer at...

Escort Photo Options

If my previous post on model releases concerned you, there are ways around it. This post is only about options for still photographs, not video. Lying Of course, the method many escorts will use is to just lie about their real name on the release. That’s not very smart from a legal standpoint – if you have an issue with the photographer and you lied on the model release, you probably won’t win your case. And if they have to verify your age with ID, then you can’t lie unless you have a fake ID (not something I recommend). Even lying won’t save you if you wish to be discreet about your face, or want control over the photos to remove identifying details, like tattoos. There are other options. Work for Hire Different photographers may call it different things, but the basic concept is that you simply hire the photographer for a set amount of time. Not all photographers publicly offer this option, but if they’re good businesspeople, they know what their hourly rate is and can quickly give you a quote. The purpose of buying a photographer’s time is because you need photos, but don’t want those photos appearing in their portfolio. Whatever they create for you is copyrighted to you, not them (as is normal with most model releases). And you shouldn’t have to sign a model release at all since the photos are yours and completely under your control. This is usually a more expensive method than hiring a photographer for one of their stated packages. But if you need extreme discretion, this is an option....

The Model Release

As some of you may not be aware, Kristen (Spitzer’s escort) was in some Girls Gone Wild videos. Regardless of what you think of those videos, the owner has her signed model release and can happily sell her tapes without her permission and pocket the profits (I believe he’s chosen to simply distribute the tapes for free — either way, he can do what he wants with the footage). Most of us haven’t been in a GGW video (I hope). Still, the issue of a model release can be a thorny one. I go into more detail in Book 2 in the section where I discuss finding a professional photographer. What is a model release? A model release is usually a one-page document that states what rights the photographer retains over the images and what rights the model has. The model is required to sign their legal name and date. The model release is signed before the photo shoot begins. In the case of adult-oriented photos, the model will be required to state their date of birth and usually a copy of their ID is made to go with the model release. A model release doesn’t require a law degree to understand. Simply reading the document before signing is usually all that’s needed to understand what you’re signing. Make a copy of the release your own records. Why sign it? For legal reasons, photographers need the protection of a model release, especially when shooting photos with nudity. They need proof you’re over 18. And the model release protects them from lawsuits if they use the pictures in the way...

High-End Escort Work — Part 2 of 2

Read Part 1 where I discuss the difference between expensive and high-end escorts. What does it take to become high-end? Making the jump from average escort to high-end is also fairly easy, with one big caveat: you have to be able to back up everything you say. If you claim you’re well-traveled then your passport had better be the envy of your friends. If you claim to have a degree in art history, then you need to start learning about art and art history (as well as becoming a regular at your local museums). If you can’t remember the difference between aspirin and Advil, don’t pretend to be in medicine or claim to be a chemistry major. Why is this so important? As a high-end companion, minimum appointments are much longer than an hour and much of that time is spent in conversation. Generally, the more a man spends, the more brains he expects in his companion. You really need to know what you’re talking about – on whatever subject you choose – because the clients who can afford you are bright, educated and successful. You need to know a wide range of topics, from the serious to pop culture. Keeping up with current events is a must, as is keeping pace with your fields of interest. You don’t have to turn into a trivia master; usually having an understanding of the main issues on a given topic is enough. Form your own thoughts and opinions about these issues and share them. Talk about your passions or hobbies. Share experiences. And most of all — learn to ask questions...

Reserve a copy of Book 2!

You can reserve a copy of Book 2: Advertising and Marketing with just an e-mail. Simply send a blank e-mail: reserve [AT] theinternetescortshandbook [DOT] com You’ll receive a single e-mail notice before the book is available to the general public. At that time, you can choose to order. Your e-mail address will be discarded after the single...

Dating a Client and Retiring for Love

One Escort’s Journey Through a Minefield! This is a speech I gave at the 2007 Desiree Alliance convention. In my series, Book #4 will discuss relationships and retirement. Retirement is a big issue for me. When I retired, I discovered that I could find no information on retiring. No one else had written or was blogging about it. Since every escort will eventually retire, it needs to be discussed. This presentation is based on my casual observations and own experiences. I haven’t conducted any formal interviews on retirement, nor do I know much about the retirement issues of sex workers other than female escorts. Some of the issues are probably universal, but I’m betting the details are different. I’ve often referred to escort work as my perfect job. As far as I can tell, it is. However, I realize this is not true for every escort, so some of my retirement issues may not apply to those who dislike the work. My boyfriend requested that I refer him as bigfatloozer (his discussion board handle – it’s a joke; if any of you are familiar with discussion boards). While I discuss my retirement, I’m also aware that I had extra issues not everyone will have: a move from Texas to California, and the dismantling of one life while trying to start a new life and career from scratch. The Retirement Myth How many of you believe the myth of retirement? The myth goes something like this: an escort retires when she takes down her ad and stops seeing clients. That’s it. The switch goes from “on” to “off.” Bigfatloozer and...