The Internet Escort’s Handbook

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Desiree Alliance 2010 Abstracts

Presented at the 2010 Desiree Alliance Conference in Las Vegas Police Treatment of Arrested Sex Workers and the law Police are given the freedom to interpret and enforce prostitution laws as they see fit, which affects the daily lives of sex workers more than the actual laws themselves. In the partially-legal countries of England, Singapore and Hong Kong (technically not a country), and the fully-criminalized US, I will show that police treatment of arrested sex workers is not reflective of prostitution laws but instead reflects local police culture, effectiveness of police oversight and general local attitude toward sex workers themselves. The obvious solution to changing police treatment of arrested sex workers is more direct outreach and education with local police as well as actively engaging local police oversight resources, regardless of the actual laws regulating prostitution. Safety for Sex Workers through Personal Privacy: Digital and Real-World Techniques for Safeguarding Your Identity and Your Life Panel presentation with: Furry Girl, Brooke Magnanti, Alex Sotirov From pornographer/web model Furry Girl: As someone who’s a model and a small business owner, I’d like to point out the potential identity breaches rooted in the United State’s federal 2257 laws.  I’m not a lawyer – so my focus is explaining from an indie pornographer’s sex worker’s perspective how 2257 laws put everyone in a bad place and work to stifle free sexual expression online. From author and escort Amanda Brooks:  Offline privacy and money management.  I will offer simple, legal methods of disassociating your real name/home address from your work name.  It can also be important to keep your real name and actual place of residence separate from...

Safety for Sex Workers Through Personal Privacy

Legal and Relatively Simple Ways of Working and Living Out of Harm’s Way Presented at the 2008 Desiree Alliance Conference in Chicago This was a presentation from last year that many enjoyed and many others did not get to attend. New material will be added this year from my return to escort work — such as advance deposits without giving up my personal info. This is a straightforward how-to piece using legal techniques of misdirection and misinformation gleaned through my own experiences and research. The concepts of having an alternate name and an alternate mailing address are simple ideas. The trick is in learning how to achieve it. An untraceable cell phone, credit card and even business bank account is essential for sex workers with more complex business needs. None of these methods will hide you from the IRS or the government, but they are enough to keep predators at arms length, which is something most sex workers...

Newsletter Signup Update

Finally! The book’s site is ready for its makeover (followed by this blog’s makeover in another few months). As part of the makeover, I’m changing my newsletter service. It’s come to my attention that my newsletter signup form hasn’t been working for the past several months. So, I’ve changed my service to MailChimp and think that will work nicely. If you’ve attempted to sign up for my newsletter anytime in the past 9 months, you will have to resubmit your email. Sorry about that. But this time, it will work! (If you’re an older newsletter subscriber, no worries, your address has already been imported to my MailChimp account.) Please enter your email...

Ebooks Are Here!

Finally! I’ve had a lot of requests over the years and technology has caught up to where I need it to be, both from the producer and consumer end. Both books are now available as ebooks. You can directly download the books straight from us for use on whatever device you own that uses the .epub format, or purchase from Amazon to use on your Kindle. Your...

A Week of Business Development

There are a lot of reasons to attend the Desiree Alliance Conference in Las Vegas at the end of July — readers of this blog may be interested in looking at the Business Development track. It’s a week chock full of business info and ideas. Today is the last day for registration, so please get your registration in! This is one Vegas trip you don’t want to miss. Highlights from the Business Development track: Sarah Sloane: Incorporating Kink into your Work Al: Keeping out of Harm’s Way William Takahashi: Disabilities and Sex Workers Panel: Safety for Sex Workers through Personal Privacy (I’m a panelist) Panel: Building a Safe and Sustainable Business Allen Lichtenstein: Contracts and What to Look for Erik Peterson: Personal Finance for Adult Industry Professionals Sarah Sloane: Burnt and Jaded: When the Passion isn’t Passionate Anymore Furry Girl: Solo Girl Danielle dv8 & Vegan Vixen: Phone and Cam sex for Profit or Lights, Web Cam, Action! Lee Harrington: On their Knees Meeshee: Clicking with your Photographer Cathy from Room Service 2000: The Value of Internet Advertising Doug Bynon: A Tax Workshop for the Cash-Based Professional Lusty Day: Working it Down Under Kimberlee Cline: Keeping it Real: Coming Out to your Loved Ones Panel: Screening Megan Morgensen: The Value of Sex Work Serpent Libertine and BeBeDoll: The Ethical Sex Worker Jean Gray: Energetic Protection and Cleansing for Sex Workers Roundtable: Your Girlfriend Sucks! For Money! Baba Dez: Sex Work is Sacred Work Lee Harrington: How Much an Hour? Panel: Tricks, Training, and Transitions Shawn Roop: Sessions that Heal The rest of the conference includes: Dr. Joycelyn Elders Norma...

Escort Emergency Start-Up Kit

A reader asked me a very good question, one that I’ve confronted more than once in my own life: What if one is ready to get started as an Internet escort now and is on a budget that’s not getting any larger as the days go by? What can one do to safely and successfully launch a positive debut? I know everyone thinks the answer is to simply put an ad on CraigsList or BackPage. That might work for some, but others want to get started with a better, more-professional image, even if they can’t afford a custom-designed website right now. Fake it till you make it — yes, it can be done. Please understand, I’m not giving you advice as I am not living your life with your concerns. But I am sharing cost-effective methods I’ve used with success. As you can imagine, one or two successful appointments can feed your new business needs, pay the rent and relieve financial anxiety. Things You Need anywhere from $20-$500 for a budget a quality digital camera (ideally with a self-timer), a “bendy” tripod ($15) and/or a trusted friend a good mirror locations, props, clothes for doing your photos Internet access and time to do research transportation a TracFone both of my books: 1 and 2 The Website One of the big concerns is getting a website. This helps you present a professional appearance and gives you more room to express yourself than an online ad. Websites can be done extremely cheaply, you don’t even have to buy a domain name. WordPress is sex worker-friendly and a well-regarded free blogging site....

Linkback Issues With Free Escort Advertising Malls/Sites

This is just one part of a very long discussion. I’m discussing actual ads, not merely a banner exchange. Due to my travels, I’ve looked into getting free advertising as much as possible. It’s very expensive to constantly pay for ads in changing locations, not to mention all the payment headaches. The number of online advertisers has exploded (especially overseas), so there are many options – even when I try to narrow my choices to what I think will be the best for me. Because these are free ads, advertisers also want me to link back to them and the home page has become the popular spot. Advertisers have become overly aware of SEO and want huge text links with every keyword they can think of. It junks up my site, making it look somewhat spammy to Google too — which could decrease my site’s PageRank. (Advertising on an online mall is not about SEO for the escort, it’s simply about getting seen by clients.) I understand that advertisers need to be competitive by working on their PageRank and such. But I think it’s gone to extremes. Even very minor sites think they should get 20 keyword-heavy text links leading from the front page of my site. If I’m not getting a front page spot on their site with lots of text/pictures, how is this a fair trade? If I’m lucky, I get a photo somewhere on their site. Or maybe just a text link, buried in their pages. That’s not worth junking up my homepage for. Paid ads sometimes requires this as well, but it’s not as bad...

Writing an Escort Ad

This is a very quick “what not to do” post. One escort I saw online described herself as a “top chef” escort. From the context of her sentence, she wasn’t referring to her culinary abilities; instead she was comparing herself to a slightly more expensive margarita: top shelf. I imagine her mistake came about because she drank a lot of margaritas and never clearly understood what the bartender was saying when she ordered one. Some simple guidelines to avoid this: Proofread. If you never paid attention in school, find a friend who did and get them to proofread for you. Don’t compare yourself to food, cars, clothes, shoes, diamonds or any other inanimate object. I’d also refrain from comparing yourself to the elements. Animals and plants are iffy — they’re living creatures and many humans have similar qualities. That doesn’t always mean it needs to be in your ad, though. Drop the superlatives. Writing a straightforward ad about who you are as an escort is really the easiest way to go. It’s hard to mess it up (if you proofread). The Hard Sell There is a lot more discussion on writing your ads (and website content) in Book 2: Advertising and Marketing...