A Client’s Perspective: “The Unbearable Imbalance of To and Fro’…”
May 31, 2007 | Leave a Comment
In case you have ever wondered, as I have, what goes through your client’s head just before and just after your appointment, here’s a lyrical answer.
This gentleman was never a client of mine but contacted me because of my book. He sent me this post simply to share some of his feelings. With his permission, I’ve posted the link for a wider audience to enjoy.
I never gave much thought to the moments before an appointment, usually because I was mentally juggling a number of preparatory tasks myself. If I was seeing a returning client, I usually was reviewing my mental file on him and anticipating the moment. New clients always had more of an impromptu-theatre feeling.
But my thoughts after a client left were often like the ones he described. Never did a client leave without making some lingering impression. And I’m guessing I did the same for him. This is a business about human connection and interaction. We leave traces of memory with each other whether we want to or not.
Reviewed in $pread Magazine
May 29, 2007 | Leave a Comment
Finally! I’m excited about my most recent review in $pread Magazine. The review was positive and it’s really a stamp of approval. Plus, it’s rather nice to have a review that was printed in a magazine. Not knocking my online reviews. I think everyone will agree that having a printed page to show off is a nice feeling.
You can read the full review on the book’s Review page.
The Odds of Sexually-Transmitted Infections
May 21, 2007 | Leave a Comment
According to Self, August 2006 (page 190), your lifetime chance of contracting a sexually-transmitted disease* is greater than one in two.
The article discussed condom usage and herpes (which condoms don’t always protect against). It did not discuss what the writer defined as an STD. For example, many health-care professionals consider bacterial vaginosis to be an STD because only sexually active women get it. However, it’s not a strictly a disease but an imbalance in your vagina brought on by sexual activity.
The article’s statistic is alarming. I looked online to try and find confirmation of it and could not, yet the various articles I did find were not much more encouraging. In general, it seems that if you indulge in sexually-risky activity, your chances of contracting an STD are better than your chances of winning a hand in a Vegas casino.
The best way not to become a statistic is to reduce your risks as much as possible – strict condom usage, no intravenous-drug use, minimal number of sexual partners, no other body-fluid swapping. If you decide to go without condoms for all sexual activities, your likely odds are stated above. Always using condoms for sexual activity lowers your risks significantly. (This article did not specify if regular condom usage would alter the reported statistic, but I’m guessing it would.)
I’m not trying to gloom and doom you. Not at all. Sex is risky. Until it isn’t, the best way to reduce risk is by proper and consistent condom usage. It’s a simple concept that easily improves everyone’s overall quality of life and reduces worry.
There are many women who’ve worked in the adult industry and have never had an STD. Condoms work.
*I prefer the term infection because not everything that is sexually-transmitted is strictly a disease, but this article used the term “disease.”
Eros Schemeros
May 17, 2007 | Leave a Comment
“Advertise on Eros!” or “Get in the Eros Zine!” Great suggestions.
When I got serious about doing this book series, I knew the first and best place to advertise would be Eros-Guide.com. Naturally. I didn’t give it a second thought until my book was being printed and I was ready to start advertising.
Do your research. I say this all the time and sometimes have to relearn the lesson. Doing research well in advance usually prevents unpleasant surprises at the last minute.
Link Between Oral Sex and Oral Cancer
May 14, 2007 | Leave a Comment
It stands to reason that if the human papillomavirus (HPV) can cause cervical cancer, it could cause cancer in other parts of the body exposed to the virus. Researchers tested throat cancer patients for evidence of the virus and found it.
The most direct way of becoming infected with HPV is through unprotected sex; in this case, unprotected oral sex is the problem. A Time article summarizes the findings published in the New England Journal of Medicine.
The men and women study participants1 completed a survey about their sexual history and those with six or more oral sex partners were 32 times more likely to have throat cancer. The other two top risk factors, smoking and alcohol, don’t increase the risk factor by more than three.
The risk of unprotected oral sex is increasing. The number of people in their 30s and 40s with throat cancer has noticeably risen over the past decade, according to a doctor interviewed in the Time article.
