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Another point to keep in mind is that street prostitution, the most common form of prostitution people are aware of, is often reported to be only 10% of all prostitution. The other 90% can encompass obvious sex-for-money transactions such as “massage” parlors and plenty of grey area, such as mistress arrangements or escorts. Prostitution is a very elastic term, which is why I give a particular definition for escorts.
The average reader who is not in the business will probably enjoy having their questions answered by someone who is in the business. I offer an answer to anyone has ever wondered what it would be like. I don’t offer a whole lot of gossip, drama or tragedy. As a whole, the adult industry is becoming more and more intriguing to a growing number of people. Escort work is one area that is still shrouded in myths. So I guess I’m a sexual myth-buster.
About the only difficulty I didn’t experience was in choosing my title. Finding people to work with me in producing the book was very difficult. It opened up a whole new side to the small press industry; one that certainly isn’t written about in how-to-publish books. In the spirit of making lemonade…I plan on using my experiences as a basis for writing a book aimed at small publishers of controversial material. This is needed information that isn’t out there so I will put it out there.
You would be able to buy it here or anywhere else my books are being sold if it were out. It’s not. Neither is Book 4.
I often say I was “lucky,” but that’s not true. I screen carefully and am hyper-paranoid so I really don’t have bad experiences. For me, a bad experience is having to deal with an asshole or getting shorted on payment. That’s really it.
I’ve met many wonderful men who were eager to show me a good time or that I completely connected with. I’ve had amazing experiences on many levels: social (fabulous dinners, nice trips), sexual or the personal (making a new friend for life).
I refuse to believe that my conscious choices and decisions as a fully-functioning adult all depend on what happened to me before I was 18. I believe in the power of my own free will much more than that.
A perfect childhood does not mean one won’t be drawn to living an unusual life; nor does a terrible childhood mean one will always be doomed to be a victim of circumstance. Everyone has to take responsibility for their own choices and actions after a certain point in life. I was far beyond that point when I decided that I would like to try escort work.
Yes. Balancing a sexual/romantic relationship with escort work is not easy, no matter how open-minded one’s lover is. Being a semi-public figure makes things tougher because I don’t like my personal and public lives mixing.
The stereotype that escort works “gets in the way” of a romantic relationship is usually not true. The reverse: that a romantic relationship gets in the way of work, is generally more the case with myself and the escorts that I know. Single girls can focus on their business a lot better.
I was retired from 6/31/04-5/08 for a serious relationship. The idea of retirement was raised by him, though it was a mutual decision. That is a decision I will never make again. I learned a lot; mainly that giving up my freedom, independence and personal power for a traditional relationship was not a good trade.
I was born a feminist! “Feminist” is not a dirty word. To me, it simply means “pro-woman.” This doesn’t mean anti-male and it certainly doesn’t mean anti-sex. I’m happy and proud to be a woman and I would not change it for anything. I don’t feel the need to hide or apologize for being female. I feel that women are the strongest untapped resource on this planet.
Being a heterosexual escort and a feminist are not disparate ideas. A woman who enjoys her body and controls her life is the best kind of feminist.
It is my legal professional name. It’s really me that you see. I’m very identifiable. There really isn’t much being concealed.
Yes. To see what sort of work sex workers do, take a look at this definition by SerpentLibertine at SexPros.net.
No. Clark County has not legalized prostitution. It does offer escort licenses, which many take advantage of to offer outcall stripper services. Though you see the flyers and advertisements everywhere, this does not mean sex for money is legal in Las Vegas. Moreover, most of these agencies are very abusive to both their employees and their clients. They exist only to make money; not to make anyone happy.
The legal brothels nearest to Las Vegas are Sheri’s Ranch, The Chicken Ranch and The Shady Lady Ranch.
It should be decriminalized. The difference between decriminalization and legalization is that decriminalization removes all laws surrounding sex work, whereas legalization creates laws governing sex work. Legalization invites the government into our bedrooms and bodies, causing the state to act as a pimp (as demonstrated in the Nevada brothels). Decriminalization allows independent adult sex workers to act as any other small business-person, providing the same legal rights to provider and client just like any other small service business.
A lot of civilized countries are decriminalizing prostitution. Their societies are not falling apart just because women are legally entitled to pursue their destiny as they see fit (the majority of sex workers the world over are women). In countries where prostitution is criminalized, it’s nearly always the women who feel the weight of the law. Criminalized sex workers are targets for violent crime and extortion by police. Criminalizing prostitution empowers criminals (and criminals in positions of authority). Taking away the criminals’ power is the best thing that could happen to women in the industry — whether they work indoors or on the streets.
It is well-documented that criminalization doesn’t work. Decriminalization does.
I don’t offer much information about becoming a male escort because that is not my area of expertise, though a couple of male escorts have reported finding my books useful.
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